Saturday, May 29, 2010
He's home!!!!
My WONDERFUL husband is home from his underway!!! He has duty today but we are going to have a wonderful weekend when it starts for us tomorrow!! A day at the beach then grilling out!! Monday again he is one of the few that actually has to work, but his chief being the great guy that he is, is letting me spend the whole day in the shop with him since all the other guys/gals will be with their families!! So thats great news! And will be so much fun to see my husband is action at work! Having him back is the best feeling in the world. And we got to celebrated his 20th birthday last night! We just have a fun filled week planned until he leaves again :/ very bittersweet. But we are making the best out of the life we chose for ourselves!
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
Buy the rumor and sell the fact
So..If you think rumors were bad in high school try being a military spouse. Not that all of them are all necessarily bad rumors but they get everyone in a roar of either excitement or disappointment. And very quickly. Someone is either texting or calling about shut downs, later dates, earlier dates, change of schedule. When the fact is none of us are aboard the ship and none of us hear what the CO has to say everyday. Not to mention it needs to be considered that there are well over 3000 plus people on my husbands ship. (I am talking Navy talk, but this applies to all military!) So with that many people it is bound to get mixed up, either one person higher up tells them something they heard and they aren't for sure of, so that person contacts family and tells them and family contacts everyone they know. Just to find out when you hear from your loved one, it wasn't true. This isn't calling any of these men or women liars or saying they are wrong. Just stating that there is one CO and all these other sailors. They are bound to hear five hundred different stories a day. Some work nights, some work days, and the mix up happens there. I use to get all upset when anybody told me of a change or something was going to happen, or get excited when in fact there was nothing to get excited over. So now I am living by what my husband tells me, when he calls and says "I'm home" I will believe they are here and when he tells me I have to be on the ship at _____ time I will take him then. There is just no need to me in getting worked up over rumors. Once again I know people don't mean them as "rumors" to hurt anyone or upset anyone. This is just simply how I am choosing to find out my information. I respect all my fellow spouses, all military and especially the spouses of the men and women aboard my husbands boat. I just don't want to be the one to upset anyone or get up any ones hopes and something that may or may not be true. What my husband tells me, I am 100% sure is what he heard or was told, but it may be completely different then what my best friends husband heard. Then we look like idiots when the complete opposite happens. Fact is it's military, there schedules are never for sure, and from the time one spouse emails his family, by the time the Next sailor gets on the computer its pretty likely that news has already changed....gotta love the life!!
Monday, May 24, 2010
Learning to deal...
I must admit, I have never been good at being alone. Especially in a two story house at night. I am probably the most paranoid person you will come by.
But over the last couple of weeks I am learning to branch out of my shell and learning to live on my own.
A month ago, you would have never caught me talking to others wives, or exploring out to meetings and get togethers with the FRG especially without someone with me. But now I see it as a very important part of being a Navy wife, one to keep my sanity and two to learn all I can about my husband's ship. I have loved reading about the ship lately, even finding pictures of the past ships. I love sending them to my husband, so he remembers he is making history.
The more I branch out and learn about the Navy the more I swell with pride when I think of seeing the ship pull into port or seeing my husband walk to me in his uniform. I don't know that the American flag has ever meant so much to me.
I have also learned in the past couple of weeks, that if you let the drama of the military wife circle into your life, it can be just as bad as high school. Which is something that shouldn't have to be a part of your life, especially when prepping for deployment. But it's true that not everyone you come across, will be your best friend. I do believe in being nice to everyone, because you never know when your smile or a kind word will change someones day or mood, even if it is someone you don't necessarily care for. Now going out of your way and kissing butt is something I am not for...fake. I don't believe in that. Especially just to get something you want such as a promotion, lead part, or new position. I believe you work hard for those things, but you need to be who you are and learn you are going to disagree with people, that's just a part of life. For me that's difficult, because I had always been on that had to have everyone liking me, and in no time, me trying to please everyone turned me into a doormat...ever happened to you?
Just within a couple of weeks I have made some great friends, something I didn't think I would find here. Some ladies I'm sure I will never forget. It's funny the lessons you can learn from people in such a short amount of time. It's also funny how today people judge you at the drop of a hat, they hear one thing you say, catch you on a bad day, or in a horrible mood, and automatically put a label on you as if they know you or what has happened in your past.
Moving from home has been a shock, one I never expected to go through, my husband joining the military threw us all for a loop, especially since we were a few months away from moving to college together. It has been a scary, undefined, twisty, fun, and adventurous roller coaster ride! One that I wouldn't trade for anything! As much as I miss my family, and I do..trust me my heart aches for them all everyday. I have learned how lucky I am to have a man in my life that loves me the way he does, still looks at me like we were 17 again! And a man that loves his country just as much, he would sacrifice his life for his country! And even though I understand I am not the first priority now, in his heart I know I am. It's been tough but I love my life, never though I would be the one to say that, but the past few weeks, I just do!! For the first time in a long time I am truly happy and very blessed!
But over the last couple of weeks I am learning to branch out of my shell and learning to live on my own.
A month ago, you would have never caught me talking to others wives, or exploring out to meetings and get togethers with the FRG especially without someone with me. But now I see it as a very important part of being a Navy wife, one to keep my sanity and two to learn all I can about my husband's ship. I have loved reading about the ship lately, even finding pictures of the past ships. I love sending them to my husband, so he remembers he is making history.
The more I branch out and learn about the Navy the more I swell with pride when I think of seeing the ship pull into port or seeing my husband walk to me in his uniform. I don't know that the American flag has ever meant so much to me.
I have also learned in the past couple of weeks, that if you let the drama of the military wife circle into your life, it can be just as bad as high school. Which is something that shouldn't have to be a part of your life, especially when prepping for deployment. But it's true that not everyone you come across, will be your best friend. I do believe in being nice to everyone, because you never know when your smile or a kind word will change someones day or mood, even if it is someone you don't necessarily care for. Now going out of your way and kissing butt is something I am not for...fake. I don't believe in that. Especially just to get something you want such as a promotion, lead part, or new position. I believe you work hard for those things, but you need to be who you are and learn you are going to disagree with people, that's just a part of life. For me that's difficult, because I had always been on that had to have everyone liking me, and in no time, me trying to please everyone turned me into a doormat...ever happened to you?
Just within a couple of weeks I have made some great friends, something I didn't think I would find here. Some ladies I'm sure I will never forget. It's funny the lessons you can learn from people in such a short amount of time. It's also funny how today people judge you at the drop of a hat, they hear one thing you say, catch you on a bad day, or in a horrible mood, and automatically put a label on you as if they know you or what has happened in your past.
Moving from home has been a shock, one I never expected to go through, my husband joining the military threw us all for a loop, especially since we were a few months away from moving to college together. It has been a scary, undefined, twisty, fun, and adventurous roller coaster ride! One that I wouldn't trade for anything! As much as I miss my family, and I do..trust me my heart aches for them all everyday. I have learned how lucky I am to have a man in my life that loves me the way he does, still looks at me like we were 17 again! And a man that loves his country just as much, he would sacrifice his life for his country! And even though I understand I am not the first priority now, in his heart I know I am. It's been tough but I love my life, never though I would be the one to say that, but the past few weeks, I just do!! For the first time in a long time I am truly happy and very blessed!
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